Dear Seattle, First, as far as detaching (or going dark), where has the “dark” gotten you so far at this point? Has she pursued you a bit more? If so, your going dark (yet responding in a friendly manner when she calls/contacts you) may be getting her attention. We talked about your going more dark since you had being “walked upon”. How are you feeling about that right now?
Regarding the sister and what you told me how your W feels about her….here is my question: Would your collusion with the sis be looked at as a positive or negative by your W? And how would your W’s response to that collusion impact her R with you? The same question need to be addressed in regard to her father.
In regards to your W’s guilt, do you believe she feels you would never forgive her nor consider moving forward with her? If you feel you need to express this, I would encourage you to do it in a way that is non-pressuring re: the M. Does that make sense?
Regarding the papers: It’s too soon to answer that. You’re not there yet and we’re not quite sure what your sitch will look like at that point, so let’s address that then, OK?
Laurie, Divorce Busting Coach Contact The Divorce Busting Center at 303-444-7004 or 800-664-2435 if you would like to schedule a telephone consultation with a DB Coach - or email virginia@divorcebusting.com for info.
