doodler -- I think the 180 for me would be to say nothing about it. To really go with the idea that you can't believe anything she says, especially in a moment like that, and not seek follow up or try to talk with her about how much it hurts to hear that sort of thing, like I probably would have done previously.
I'm not great at this, but I'm getting better. I had a huge argument with WW yesterday. She threatened to get a L involved and start things up. Early on, this would've terrified me. Now? Meh, we were arguing and she tried to scare me. (I was angry and tried to scare her in response lol) You can't take everything they say in the heat of the moment as a likely action. I'm about 7 weeks in, the vets here say that's nothing and it's taken me 7 weeks to realize they're right....
Try not to mention how it hurts. She doesn't care, and it will make YOU hurt more. Trust me. You hurt enough as is.
Me: 35 W: 32 S: 4 T: 6 M: 4 Physical Separation official: 5/21 Currently: DR/DBing, Focusing on me and son
Cheating on a good person is like throwing away a diamond and picking up a rock.
