Newby here, desperate for some advice

[EDF]

I don't think an email would be helpful unless maaaybe if there is something you feel you really screwed up on, but I'm not getting that sense from your description. Sounds like you made it through ok. If there are some things you simply wished you had handled a bit differently, perhaps figure those out so you're more ready for next time it comes up.

Regarding her "not being able to make it 2 years" comment, I wouldn't focus too much on that. Remember the whole "not believing anything she says" thing. Also, you already know your wife is unhappy. and uncertain. and struggling with a lot of things and flailing around trying to figure out what will make her happy. Right? Know that you're going to hear that expressed in many different ways by her as your situation procedes... try not to let any particular variant affect you too much.