I gave up on saving my marriage a couple of weeks ago because when I actually sit down and think about the past couple of years with my W I don't like what I see. If, and it's a big if, we were ever to reconcile things have to be drastically different or I would find myself here again a couple years down the line.
I think I am on same route. Don't like it, but I am sure that I will change, and definitely not same person. Things must be different, because I did lots of compromises to keep thing running, while other side did less (as I see it).
Originally Posted By: RSG
... the woman you SEE isn't the one you know. And likely not the one you want. You miss and mourn the woman you KNOW and want her to come back. Your emotions will def go through a roller coaster. That's 1000% normal.
It is a mix, I like this new woman's body, but what I miss is the old wife's good days personality. There were bad days and I don't miss those.
Me38,W36,D9 M 10y, R 14y
10/11/2015 wants to leave 25/12/2015 definitely wants to leave, makes plans Jan 2016 started DBing Feb 2016 sleeping in separate rooms Sep 2016 sleeping in same room
