Does anyone think it a good idea for me to send a quick e-mail to her to let her know I heard her and to validate her feelings (well, other than the ones that suggest a zeal for a divorce)?
Hmmmmm. The bolded makes me question whether or not you understand the concept of validation fully.
Validation does NOT mean agreement. So, you can validate her feeling that divorce is the best way forward even if you dont agree that it is.
