I recommend the Rhett Butler approach. When she arrives home and starts whining about things, put your arms around her and say, "Frankly, my dear, I don't give a d@mn." Kiss her. Then, haul her off to the MBR.
Yeah, that would be awesome, but we're not even close to that being possible right now, I'm afraid.
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)