I fostered two little girls that caught lice. One of the girl's hair was long. It took me two weeks to get the lice out. I agree with JksD, cut the hair it grows back.
H-46 XW-38 T-7 M-6 S-9,8,8,6,4 S 11/30/15, I filed 12/8/15 EA 2/1/16 D dismissed 3/24/16 PA 3/18/16 confirmed 4/22/16 XW files for D 4/1/16 - D final 11/17/16 Finally moving forward...
I've not seen my D11 in weeks because on the weekend I have my D5 she goes to her biological dads house and I don't want to have the girls on alternate weekends as then they will never have a weekend together.
OK. Are you an adopted father of her? Do you have any rights as far as visitation goes? I checked your early thread and didnt see any clear details on your R with D11....
No not an adopted father and my rights stretch as far as being her step dad and that's about it.
I've always had a solid relationship with D11 but I think she is very much going through a pre-teen phase and is quite moody and rebellious. I feel for her because I don't think she knows how she should be acting with me now, she knows I'm not her 'real dad' and that me and her mum are no longer together but I don't think she knows how to process this.
Life is going well. Had a couple of great weekends with friends and I've reconnected with some people from my past which I never would have done pre BD. Driving is going well and I'm hoping to be out on the road by the end of the year.
Meeting my W tonight to discuss D, not sure what's going to happen but right now I'm not sure I care too much. Not going to over think it just going to wait and see what she has to say.
Thought I was alright after the D conversation with my W but have woke up this mornings and it has hit me like a tonne of bricks.
Back to trying to figure out where it all went wrong? The only thing my W cared about last night when I spoke with her was finances and whether is was going to 'drag her name through the mud'.
Hi Kyler. It's a roller coaster of emotions , they hurt you and you want them gone and then you wonder if it's fixable and you want them back
From the outside looking at your sitch , your W is searching for happiness and in her mind the main block to that is you. It doesn't really matter if it is you or not at this stage because if it is , she won't give you a chance to change and if it isn't it doesn't matter to her if you change.
Right now you can only control you So that's what you have to do Accept how W feels right now and move forward as if this is what life will be like. Start living for you and treat W like a neighbour This is so hard to grasp when you emotions are all over the place but if you can stick to it you will start to accept it for real and truly live your life as you want to and be the best person / dad / etc that you can be
Nothing you do or say will sway W right now , drop any expectations that you would have had of your W and you can't be disappointed. This takes time and practise but you can get there
Stay strong mate. Read the lighthouse story in cadets intro post It holds a lot of wisdom
Kyle, maybe you could try acting as if. We always assume that actions will follow feelings: if I feel great, then I can do great. If I feel I can detach, then I will ve able to detach.
Now, we have to overturn this assumption. You have to take steps towards detaching before you will feel like you want to detach.
Give more power to your actions and not your feelings. Override your feelings. If you want to feel in control, then control the things within your control. Psst. It's you.
You have to let go of your expectations of your W. She's not making sense so you will only kill yourself trying to figure her out.
What can you do for your pma? What fun can you have with d5?
You can call me Dory/ Grl.
As a wise fish once sang,"Just keep swimming!"
It's no use to go back to yesterday because I was a different person then.
