I'm no expert but I would say there is nothing wrong with losing site of the marriage, I know I have.
Someone once told me on here that you're not fighting to save this marriage as it is already over. You are working on yourself, for yourself and one day in the future you may get a chance to build a new relationship with your spouse.
I gave up on saving my marriage a couple of weeks ago because when I actually sit down and think about the past couple of years with my W I don't like what I see. If, and it's a big if, we were ever to reconcile things have to be drastically different or I would find myself here again a couple years down the line.
