AndrewP and Coconut, thank you for your comments too.
Im probably no where near your stage yet Coconut, if i ever get there. I have a hard time believing things will get better M wise to be honest but i have to give it my all atleast.
Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs 23Mar16-BD 9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss. 27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM. 14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation. 24May17-Divorced.