My wife walked out 3

[RSG]

Yep, listen to that guy cbt, I know I do... Your WW explained away, and that was a pretty crappy explanation. Detach man, detach is your best chance..

My wife and I are piecing, and guess what? There are no awkward text, no hiding the phone, she almost always texts me first and is always telling me what's going on in her life... Wanna know why, because now she's focused on being with me...

When somebody texts her, or posts something on Facebook that she thinks I may misinterpret she comes to me and shows me the whole conversation, because she knows it might make me question...

Look, until she shows yountrue remorse it doesn't matter what she says, Jo's back away... Go as dark as you possibly can. If your truly doing it for your son do it, but if your doing it to communicate with her, don't do it.., back away.

I hear you guys. She doesn't show true remorse of course. I think Sandi's right and she feels sorry for herself, and hoping I do too. If she felt any remorse, she would see that what I did today came from pain. I'm still bleeding a little even though scar tissue is building. I do like Sandi's note of response to "I'm so sorry" though. "It's not that simple anymore " is the perfect response.

I'm going to look at each text when it comes through and put a value on it. During any phone calls I choose to take, I'm going to initiate "I need to go" and say goodbye. This was a big wakeup call for me today. I need to work on my ability to forgive, or I won't be able to trust anyone anymore. I need to work on myself a lot. Communication, LL's and all the relationship stuff is helpful. I CAN control my anger. I was holding back on forgiveness in order to wait for her request; but, I see now that her asking is one thing (and will take a long time). My GIVING is another. It's for me, my heart, my value, my life.

The therapist I called today only has hours from 8-2 a couple days a week. That just won't work. She's supposed to ring me tomorrow with info re recommendations. I'm looking forward to getting with someone and really working on things. I'm good at reading and putting concepts into play, but I need to get stuff out into the open and have a professional help me with my head.