My wife walked out 3

[cbtdad]

Bahahahaha!!! I won't come hunt you down! There are gonna be many slips up along the way. It's a process and that's why it is so important to work on yourself.
If you read my threads from 2013 then you probably noticed it took me over 3 months to detach. My BD that time around was in December and I didn't join the forum till February. I did so much wrong before I joined. So in that aspect you are way ahead of the game!! Good job!
My sitch from 2013 taught me so much about a WW. I can't tell you how many times my W would say she isn't talking to OM anymore. And you know what her response was when we started piecing? "Well at the time you asked me I wasn't talking to him"
That's the roller coaster ride my friend. That's why it is so important to work on you and detach. Listen to me on this!!! YOU HAVE ZERO CONTROL OF YOUR W. YOU CAN ONLY CONTROL YOU!
Rsg, you can't control your emotions, but you can control how you react!!! You got angry when you saw that name. And by the way, I don't believe your W. She is still in contact with whoever it is. She is definitely communicating as much as she is with you for plan B right now. She might now even realize that is what she is doing, but that is definitely happening. You have something she doesn't. Us!! you have us who have been through these things and can point them out.
That's why you need to take the advice of everyone and cut the contact as much as possible. It's for you! Don't worry about her. I know that's tough to do but you must do it to move forward.
The things you are saying about your W's behavior right now remind me so much of how she was in 2013. She would break down all the time. She was definitely not the woman I had married and wanted to be with. There is nothing you can do to change your W right now. You have to understand that. She has got to find herself on her own. You can only do you!
I want you to really pay attention to when your W texts you.
Really understand if it's something you need to respond to. If it is, then one or two word answers.
Just like coconut said, when on the phone keep it short and sweet and be the first to get off. You have to slow down her control.
Go be happy for you!! I know it's hard. Been there done that. But it will get easier.