Quote: The contact I have been initiating is for a couple of reasons, she has felt I was distant and wasn't loving enough before, I didn't pay enough attention to her, she prefers to run from problems rather than face them.
This is what I was doing as well, for the same reasons. It worked intermittently for me. Two positive things I did were letting H know I had faith in him to get where he wanted to go and that I respected his need to focus on work when he was doing that. (yeah...took me a while to figure that out, too)
IMHO, you might want to keep up the contact, but not overdo it. You were overdoing it. Make it less frequent and more casual. Respond to her bids, but not all of them. Create a little mystery about what her reliable beloved Seattle is up to.
If you keep doing what I was doing, it will exhaust you and then you're going to need an aromatherapy facial too.
Seriously, I don't think going dark for a long time is going to help you. Darkness helps you get your head together and do for you without the stress of the R, wondering, analyzing, etc. It doesn't do anything by itself, IMO, just allows you space to do what you need to do-- whether that's take care of Seattle's needs, get some work done, do a 180 from calling all the time, etc.
BTW, I posted a question for you on my thread.
p.s. to Karen, the M-V theory says men are like rubber bands and often need to go away before they "snap back"... not sure if that helps you figure out when the quiet times can help versus not? They are scary, I agree!
