Hey Seattle, I meant to post yesterday but ran out of time, (sorry). Anyway, just wanted to drop by and give you some ((((((((((((())))))))))).
This has me somewhat confused as well. I want to make sure that my WAS "knows" that I love them and want to work things out-AND I've told him that SEVERAL times. But bringing in distance scares me to the point that if I don't reach out and keep some sort of contact then will he think I have given up? I guess that's part of the idea behind DBing but it is scary. I know in a way I have done the detachment thing and I'm not sure if it's working or not. The thing I'm contemplating now and maybe you can as well is, if we were both "detached" for a number of months, would my R hold out in the end? By this I mean that if we both took a "holiday" from it w/little to no contact, no emotional attachment, etc.. during a period and then one day either of us made that step forward to "re-connect" would the door still be open or would it be sealed at that point?
I have read about others on the BB who have done this for periods of time and wonder HOW??? I am questioning myself to see if I would be able to handle it. I think that could be part of detachment and letting them have their "space"???? Not really looking for answers just thoughts here mostly. Maybe you see it differently but just thought I'd throw it out there.
As for the money...I would "hold" it until you speak to her again. Maybe you could call and just "thank" her for returning the things and let her know that you got everything. Then, if she brings up the money you could tell her you hadn't looked at it yet and kind of set the bait for her? Take care Tootles.................
