Originally Posted By: qt4x11
Originally Posted By: darknes
Originally Posted By: Cop1
How many times have people turned this kind of thing around and made their spouse come back?


These are two different things.
One you have control of and one you dont.

You can be the best person in the world, and it doesnt ensure your spouse will change their mind.

Thats why it's essential to focus on what you can control: YOU.



cop-

I asked my L this question, he said out of every 10 couples who come to him to process their D, about 3-4 decide not to go through with it for some reason. hope that helps.


The faster you can get to a realization that their is a 0% chance the faster you can start the work you need to do.. As others have said the focus needs to be on you. Trying to mind read and dissect every action and word of W will drive you nutso.


Me:47 XW 43
D15 D10
Together 17 married 15
Bd : Mother's Day 2015
Sep :July 2015
Divorce final October 2016