Hi Cop1, don't try and analyse what she is doing and why. It won't help you. When my W was still in the house she would do the same things, always asking where I was going, who I was with etc. She would say she was just trying to be civil... My W still has her status as married on FB even though she says we are done, done, done. I actually unfriended her as she was telling me she was going to go have an affair blah blah.
Like Sandi says, she wants the benefits of you as well as her free single side, you have to let go and look after you. It's hard, especially in the house, I made sure W moved out. Don't ask her anything, I haven't asked my W anything about her life for 6 months. Get the focus on you and you alone, like everyone says, it's hard but you need to stop trying to mind read her.
I'm 6 months since BD and W is still all over the place where her words and actions are often poles apart. She wants control of the situation and in particular she wants control of you. Take control of yourself back first and foremost.
