Thanks for the insights everyone. I really need them as usual. Really tough to detach and still be emotionally available, things I'm trying to focus on with my new thread.
Renew - I think her primary LL are AOS and gifts and WOA and physical touch (non sexual) but she is well versed in all. As far as whats working is the relaxed attitude and consistent efforts of friendship on my part. I'm going to continue to evaluate. I'm looking for a fresh persepctive on my DRing too, I hope its revealed to me soon. This is one of the longest times I've been dark and she has initiated contact in the past. I thank you for your insights about sharing her fears with me, I also like being there for her and want to be as well.
BB - I think a lot of what you've said applies to me right now. I have been very available to her almost all the time. As good as she is at blocking me out of her life, I don't feel I can wait too long to respond to any of her contacts right now. I will proceed cautiously and not rush, keep a relaxed attitude.
Pam - You are right, I've been doing way too much fretting and worrying and overanalyzing everything. I've made a vow to live my life not analyze it to death but it is hard to break away from those natural tendancies.
Christine - I have never thought of that point, it is a very good one. She is tight on $ right now and I know she gave me way too much $ for vet appointment. She also considers this "her dog" now and might feel like she needs to make a statement?
Please expand on your thoughts if you can or if anyone else has any thoughts about the $ and whether I should return it? I don't want to offend her or pressure her. I'm not sure it was out of kindness or trying to make a statement that this is her dog or maybe she is monitoring for my reaction since she knows I know she is tight on $.
Along with the tools, the $, and the note (all business, no mention of papers or call me or anything) she put a bill that she changed into my name and I will pay going forward. She dropped all of these things off by the back door when I wasn't at home. No call or anything.
Overanalyzing again? Last contact was over a week ago with her calling me and saying "Thanks for taking care of dog" and that was it. I'm not sure this is a communication bid or not, but I'm going to respond just in case it is, she would never call just to say Hi right now.
My options are to call and leave VM, call salon to talk with her (she might ask me about papers again), send her a card with $ back saying it was too much $. Opinions please.
