Chapter 3. Let the detachment begin

[bigybiz]

My oh my.

So last month she has to move out of where she is. In a hurry she signs a 6 month lease. She does not inform me that she will not put $ into our joint account on July 1 because she needs her contribution to cover her 1st and last month rent. Well this morning I look at our joint account and the mortgage payment "bounced" yes returned by the bank for not enough funds.

So after a flurry of text messages and I insist she calls the mtg company. She shows up here tonight telling me that. I knew she needed extra $ for her rent and logically I should have known that she would not have made the July 1 contribution. She admits that it was not clear and she knew I take the mtg very seriously.

She starts babbling that on the past Saturday we squandered time on R talk when we should have been talking about money, kids etc and the R talk is pointless...

I'm insisting that she call the MTG company and make arrangements to cover the missed payment. She is going to do that. She tried to get me to do it by telling me she wont be able to look up the company, etc, etc. I stood my ground and did not take the bait.

After that she tells me we must sell the house. We can't afford it apart, it's not that important that the kids have a family home if we can't keep up with the payments and the maintenance, etc. I almost fell into the trap of defending the position to stay etc, etc - but I did not - lucky.

Later I asked if she wanted to set up a meeting to discuss the house, etc - she told me that she told me what she thoughts and now I should think about it.

I'm not going to bring it up at all. On Sept 1st we are supposed to resign - so we need to do it by Aug 1. I will just bite my tongue and see what happens.