Newby here, desperate for some advice

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I understand. I dont mean to be confusing. Let me give an example.

The way I see it, you need to set some big picture goals:
- I want to be more confident
- I want to be a better father
- I want to be more patient
- I want to be more positive
- and so on.
These are the big things you want to change about yourself.

Then you can narrow it down:
- I want to be more confident
--> I want to lose 25 pounds
--> I want to dress nicely
--> I want to meet new friends
--> and so on

Then you can continue down as far as you need to so that each item is clearly discrete and measurable. SMART, if you will. And you will know that they all fit in to becoming the best JRuss you can be because they all stemmed from your main objectives.

Otherwise, you can set the short goals - "I want to not initiate texts to me wife", but if you dont see how it fits into the larger scope, then it could be meaningless or getting you farther from the larger picture goals!