Newby here, desperate for some advice

[JRuss]

Well, the list was something I worked up in response to another poster's suggestion that I not look so big picture (reconnecting with wife, trying to be happily married again, keep family together), so I'm struggling a bit tying to synthesize all of what I'm reading. 30 feet out, the "hole" as it were, is a pieced together, happy marriage with my wife and well-adjusted children that didn't have to go through their parents divorcing. Intermediate markers? No idea. Maybe my wife coming to me and saying she wants to work on the marriage, maybe go to counseling (she's always resisted anything like that)?

The fitness goals are designed to get into and stay in shape to (hopefully) partially counteract the depression and self-image issues I've encountered as my marriage has fallen apart. The act of exercising (more) helps the chemicals in my brain get into a better place, and looking good helps me feel better about myself. Feeling better about myself is definitely good for me, personally, with the hopefully added benefit of making me more attractive to my wife (or, if not her because I do end up divorced, someone else one day).