Newby here, desperate for some advice

[JRuss]

Coconut -- thanks for your post. I'm definitely doing a lot of reading and re-reading.

Last night went pretty well, I guess. We talked some about some kid-related necessities, and she got a modest raise at work, so we discussed that. Since she initiated the conversation, I congratulated her and told her that I was really happy for her (she's really struggled with having dropped out of the job market for years, falling behind where she was, and then getting back into it sort of on the bottom). It was pretty brief and light. Before I knew what I was doing, I asked her what she was doing on the computer at one point (paying some bills). I realized immediately that wasn't DB but too late. I went to bed without saying goodnight, which is a 180 for me. She read on the couch for a while, then came to bed sometime later. When I woke up this AM, our feet were lightly touching. I sat there not knowing what to do -- move my foot, or not move my foot. Ridiculous what this has come to! This AM we talked about some kid-related stuff -- again initiated by her -- and she went into work. She kissed me on the check when she left. I didn't move my cheek. Should I have? It was probably just because I was standing near the door, and she couldn't think of a way that wasn't awkward to get past me. Geez, the level of micromanagement of each moment and thinking and knowing what to do is intense.