My third post - please be nice

[Tofbrks]

Colin- going through similar sitch... Maintaining R with D12 or trying to make it flourish. Also live in nc , saw you mention chapel hill . Roughly 1hr away.

Is there a pattern of "leaving" by your wife? You mention a previous M or lt R that lead to D...? How did it end ? Same amount of time ? A cycle perhaps ?

I see you received the lybnilwy speech ... Which usually means her head is in a totally different place than yours. She wants to be in love with you but can't make herself feel those feelings. Jus like my sitch you maybe the nice guy doormat that she just lost respect for and women can't be attracted to weak men... And can't be in love with them either. Why was the tv where she wanted it and not where you wanted it ? Nice guy accommodated wife , placed where she wanted it and waited for reward...that's how it starts a little push here a little push there - often time with little to no "reward" ... So after time the challenge to keep you is gone , your conquered and respect is low. These are just my opinions and not meant to put your head in a bad place ... Just an outsider looking in seeing what you maybe to close to see. I think this is what happened to me.. just too longer to get there.