I agree. Why not wait? But then again why wait? Wait for what? What are we missing? Are we missing a person that makes us 'happy, whole'?
What if we just focused on being happy and whole and they happen to come into our lives. That would be better than waiting for them to 'make us' happy or whole surely.
I am starting to remember that everything comes from within. I am starting to like that because I am at last starting to feel in control and I feel happy and whole. Not always, but little by little.
So yes. No need to date or move on I agree. Just work on feeling happy and whole. I guess that's the whole GAL thing.
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Due to one thing and another I haven't met my friend for the drink and info about her friend. Probably just as well. Feeling a bit down at the moment. Last week had a brief phone call with W about a practical matter with the house, she tried to get onto how I was etc so I cut short the phone hcall politely. She texted me a number I needed which I deleted without copying. I had to ask for it again, she asked do you erase all my messages( of course, why would I keep them!)? S and I are going back to see my parents for a couple of weeks and go to a wedding. W asked could I send photos of S at wedding and what was I going to wear? At the moment she's on a beach holiday with OM,she's changed her profile picture to one of her looking glamorous sitting on the L of love in some night club. It was a year ago that she told me she was on a yoga holiday when in fact she went with him for a ten day beach holiday at his sister's apartment. Feeling pretty low, can't wait to leave town. Only here at the moment so S can spend some time with friends. Later in the summer I've booked us a couple of mini breaks. Most of friends away at the moment so feeling a bit lonely too. I know I'm lucky in so many ways but every time I hear from her, see something like her picture it seems to knock me back. She's still the person I'd love to be with, when she asks to meet up and says I'm the best and kindest person she knows it takes all my willpower to resist. I feel like I'm back to the beginning each time we have minimum contact.
Hi Scrant. I haven't found evidence yet of OM but I am getting ready to it mentally. I know it's going to hit me hard and that there is nothing I will be able to do to change it. One thing I know for sure. I won't be part of a love triangle. I am not going to let her eat cake. If she wants to talk to me she will have to dump that guy first. No contact is the best strategy in my opinion to get your ex back.
W still on holiday but doesn't stop her texting to ask who S is going out with in the town's parties. Complains S doesn't answer her texts. Guess what me neither! Really tired of her attitude
Just venting! W on holiday. I look after S, listen and care for him etc. she checks in for some long distance parenting. I replied with the names of his friends. She replied Nice! Thanks for telling me! Not resentful of S but definitely of W! Lives the life she wants and then cries about R with her S.
Scrant, why are you doing that? She is having sex with a guy on holiday and you still consider her? Your son is old enough to let her know what's going on and he doesn't want to talk to her. Why are you?
Finally getting ready for a couple of weeks away! S has had a couple of days going out with friends and I've chilled at home. Not really in a party mood! To day W has texted a couple of times asking after son. I've kept my replies as brief as possible. Tonight she texted wishing us a safe journey and asking for photos. Signed off with a kissy face. Haven't replied as I thought she is on a romantic holiday with OM
Hi Scrant, I'm glad you'll be getting away for a couple of weeks. A change of scene and company are always good things.
Just reading your post above - I do think your W treats you much like a brother and her S rather like an auntie. Hmm.
If you weren't behaving back in a brotherly like way (ie: responding) what would you be doing? Do you think you feel 'obliged' to respond when perhaps a response isn't always needed? If I were taking a hard line, I would say that if your S doesn't respond to her, why would you pick up the slack and respond for him? After all, his non-response is a consequence of her abandonment of your family.
Just food for thought anyway.....do relax and have some fun on your break xx
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
Thanks Sotto. Didn't reply in the end. Today she asked after our journey and when cousin's wedding is. Sometime later replied with the date and nothing more. She'll be back from her beach holiday and off with her yoga group. Hopefully she'll be busy meditating! Out for a run today and now chilling out with parents and S. Great to have a change of scene.
