The reason I say I'm in no position is because my W has built up so many walls that I believe she will see it as an attack. I believe that my SIL and MIL are in a better position to voice their/our concerns then me and actually get some positive results.
If they speak to her and there is no improvement I will be forced to take some action though. I am already building a gallery of photos and I'm keeping all correspondence pertaining to my daughters.
Kyle, I hope that you can look past any thoughts about WAW thoughts of you and an attack. That should be irrelevant at this time as the health and safety of your d is in question based on what you have shared. I understand the thought and desire of being diplomatic with family members that are in direct contact, but I hope that you do not wait more than 1 day to step in for this. Question. Is your d with your wife in Boston? Or with SIL and MIL? Who is caring for your child? If WAW is not with d, then wouldn't it be imperative that you step in now?
Maybe I am missing something here, or there are details you have not shared, but my hope is that there is not any delay in helping your d. Lice in the manner that you describe is a health issue not only for your d, but for those around her as well.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
My D was with my SIL who was treating and her has been trying to sort the issue out, my W was in Boston by herself.
My SIL agreed that it is probably best that she speaks to my W first as we're fairly certain that my W currently has some form of mental health issues and they're going to try and get her go and seek some form of help.
Hi Kyler. it sounds like your in a very tricky situation. D11 obviously has links to her biological dad , so why isn't he dealing with the head lice problem ?
If you truly believe that D5 is in any risk whatsoever , sort it out , your her dad and it should t matter a cr@p what anyone else thinks least of all W who's away on holiday.
As for your relationship with SIL ,' I had a very similar conversations with my SIL and FIL and MIL and we all came to the conclusion the my WW is not think long straight ( to put it kindly ) BUT it's doesn't really matter because unless your W thinks she need help then she won't look for it My WW went to the docs and got diagnosed with depression and was put on anti Ds which she remains on to this day. That was a year ago and it didn't change my sitch
I'm trying to get you to grasp whatever your Ws issues are , MLC , breakdown , just doesn't like her life with you and being a mum anymore , she will do what she will do You have no control.
SIL or MIL talking to your W will make no difference , my MIL told my WW it would be disgusting if WW left her kids but WW did it anyway. My WW is a college graduate , comes from a very happy , stable home and was a great mum and W for over 25 years
Kyler you need to accept what is , your W is doing what she wants and will continue to do so All you have control over is you and your kids.
Just another thought that came to me , why didn't your friend who gives you the Intel on W tell you about the way the kids were being looked after ? She seems very knowledgable about intimate details of your Ws life yet didn't notice head lice falling out of D11 hair and no food in the house ?
Kyler , all the above in my humble opinion. I e been on this board for almost two years and seen people struggle to grasp their reality but once they do they get on with their lives
Hi Kyler. it sounds like your in a very tricky situation. D11 obviously has links to her biological dad , so why isn't he dealing with the head lice problem ?
I thought the exact same thing, I've seen the photos and you would have to be blind not to see it so can't really answer that I'm afraid.
Originally Posted By: rd500
Kyler you need to accept what is , your W is doing what she wants and will continue to do so All you have control over is you and your kids.
I completely agree with this and have come to accept it. The reason my in laws are going to speak with my W has nothing to do with me, it's about the safety of my children.
Originally Posted By: rd500
Just another thought that came to me , why didn't your friend who gives you the Intel on W tell you about the way the kids were being looked after ? She seems very knowledgable about intimate details of your Ws life yet didn't notice head lice falling out of D11 hair and no food in the house ?
I believe the friend never gets to see my children, she'll show up at the house after they've gone to bed. She has, however, commented on the state of the house and the lack of food in the fridge and cupboards.
I personally do think my wife is having breakdown/crisis at the moment and so do many others but I know there is nothing I can do about it which will change my current sich. All I hope is that I'm not too far gone if she ever comes round.
Quite right, can last up to 5 years in some cases. I'm not going to put my life on hold in the hope she might wake up in 5 years and regret her actions.
So sorry Kyle! I've been in the MLC and A struggles for almost five years but in the last year things were better until two months ago WH took up with another one from his AA group. Now I'm back to square one. I agree I can't do another five years but I will reevaluate after Christmas and see what happens. Do you have a timeline? Regards, col
Me54 WH48 S18 D16 M 22 T 24 EA-PA-EA 2011-2015 Separated 10/14 - 06/15 BD1 02/14 BD2 05/16 BD3 08/21/16 and began drinking again Working on me and liking me again
