Water - boy, he's still confused, isn't he? Seems like what you are doing right now is working - getting a life, being a little mysterious, being a little intriguing (like the phone sex ).
Don't sweat the anniversary - if he doesn't say anything, it just may be that he doesn't know what to say, or is in such a fog that he's forgotten it (when the aliens invade, their memories go right out the window), or he has plans for something nice for the weekend, or whatever. Just take yourself out tonight for a nice dinner and celebrate the good parts of your marriage.