Greetings to all~
Well now, here is a new development....
I took everyone's wonderful advise as KAW's magic 8 ball is out of service. How is that coming along KAW?
I have been leaving XH alone and letting him contact me. A couple weekends ago a bunch of people that I work with went out to a couple bars. I saw a guy that I used to work with and he was a JERK and XH knows who he is. Well he was at one of the bars and was talking to me and bought me a drink. I really didn't spend much time talking to him, and our group left to go to another bar. Then we ended up at Denny's having breakfast at the wee hours of the morning.

I told XH about this and he had lots of questions. Did anyone hit on you? Did you dance with anyone? etc

I just answered his questions casually but honestly. I tried to keep Wiley's wise words in my mind...(Thanks Wiley!!)

Then I went back to no contact. Well low and behold he calls me during the week. We talk for a bit. Then again, no more contact from me.

Now it is last Friday night and he sends me a page with his new address at 11:00 at night. REALLY you have lived there a week and wait till Fri night to contact me? Could you be wondering what I'm doing? I respond with a thank you. Sure enough, the next question is "So what are you doing?"...hummmmmm

Now it is Saturday night. And sure enough he sends me a page at 11:30 at night wishing me a good evening. WHAT! I again kept Wiley in mind and did not respond until the NEXT morning. Any guesses as to what his first question was?? "So what were you doing?"

Could someones mind be working? Are there some small, tiny breaks in the fog?

We do page each other a few messages on Sunday, just little things.

Wednesday night about 5:30 he calls me. This is very different. He usually doesn't call from work. He tells me that it has been a long time since he's heard from me and want to make sure I was still alive. 3 days was a long time to him!!

Again, I kept Wiley on my shoulder. I was DRIPPING with confidence. I have a company and am branching out into a new area and was excitedly telling him about it. I told him that I had a conference call with a guy who was in the same type of business. I also told him some changes I made with our adult children who live with me as roommates. He was very impressed. Holding them accountable was always an issue for me, so huge 180 not only for DB'ing, but as a mom too!

Sure enough more pages that very night. Then we migrated to a phone call. We talked for over an hour just about random things. He was very complimentary. He told me that he always knew I would make a great businesswoman. He specifically told me that he was PROUD of me and the way I have been dealing with the kids and it seems to have been very positive for everyone.
WELL, then the conversation turned to a more sexual nature. Turned into full on phone sex.

XH also brought up an article he read on trust within a relationship. The article gave two examples to think about and discuss. 1st was your spouse is on computer, but keeps his email password protected. 2nd was about telling significant other that they are not the "best" you've ever had. We talked about each and our thoughts on them.

Yesterday I come home and there is a box delivered for me. It is from a company on line that XH shops at frequently. There are two really cool watches. I call him, but got his vm. He calls me back about 10:30 last night. He tells me Happy Birthday! my birthday is in a couple weeks. He asked me two days ago what I wanted for my birthday. We don't talk very long. We both are very tired.

Today, I emailed him some pictures of our S. Told him I was wearing a lovely watch and thanked him. Wished him a wonderful day.

Today would have been our 21st wedding anniversary.

No response.

Whew, I am tired from just writting all that, I hope I haven't made you all dizzy.

Thoughts?!?

Keeping you all in my prayers.

Blessings
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