This is tough. I've actually had conversations about this with my W, and how we need to handle it, and nothing has worked. She knows that she lets her emotions get involved and loses control of herself, leading to raised voice, anger, yelling, and then usually, an eventual door slamming as she storms out of the room/house. I always remain calm and try to listen/hear my wife out on her side of things, but she's just too angry to hear anything other than "negative, negative, negative" and falls apart cause she can't keep control... I know it's not the best way, or the answer you might want to hear, but we've resorted to emails and texts for anything dealing with "business matters."
