Progress is slow but does happen!

[PacLove]

So a lot of DB theology is around GAL and making yourself "look" attractive to our spouses so they will want to come back.

How have others on here handled the potentially unattractive necessary conversations? For example, I need to bring up to W that she owes some money on the shared expenses which I know will be a love buster... so I've been hesitating.

I'm very detailed around finances and while I know she appreciates this quality in me for our investments, she'll also see it as me monitoring her and watching her spending when I confront her on this. It definitely wont be putting any deposits into the Emotional Bank Account.