Part of me definitely understands this is where things might be headed for me, too (although I don't think my wife wants or could ever handle sole custody), and that's why I live life in such a state of perpetual fear that's so hard to break through.
JRuss,
Is your fear that you won't have custody of your children? Or maybe a better way to ask that is, what is it that's keeping you in a state of perpetual fear?