Newby here, desperate for some advice

[JRuss]

tkdmme -- thanks for the response. I'm really sorry things went the way they did for you and wish you hadn't had to go through what you've gone through (and likely still are going through). Part of me definitely understands this is where things might be headed for me, too (although I don't think my wife wants or could ever handle sole custody), and that's why I live life in such a state of perpetual fear that's so hard to break through. S

I will check out your thread