I've told my SIL that if she's this concerned then she needs to tell my W as I'm in no position to do so.
KyleR, might I suggest you put yourself in a position to do so. Unless there is some legal document that I missed in your story here saying you have no right to your children and have a restraining order from them, you then have a moral and fatherly obligation to put yourself in a position to take care of and protect your d.
This is not a disagreement between you and your W on what friends your d can have or what style of clothing she wears. This is a health and safety issue that you need to get very involved in. It may even be a neglect issue based on laws that I am aware of in most places. This is MHO as my daughters come above all else in the sitch we find ourselves in. I would worry about my WAW in the same manner as I would worry about a teacher, daycare person or neighbor if I saw this. Which is to say I would not care about them in the least as I acted to care for the child.
I hope you can find a remedy for this sitch promptly for your daughters sake.
Last edited by Cadet; 07/05/1611:06 AM. Reason: Start a new thread message
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
I've not seen my D11 in weeks because on the weekend I have my D5 she goes to her biological dads house and I don't want to have the girls on alternate weekends as then they will never have a weekend together.
The reason I say I'm in no position is because my W has built up so many walls that I believe she will see it as an attack. I believe that my SIL and MIL are in a better position to voice their/our concerns then me and actually get some positive results.
If they speak to her and there is no improvement I will be forced to take some action though. I am already building a gallery of photos and I'm keeping all correspondence pertaining to my daughters.
Think I need to start a new thread so will be continued.