Newby here, desperate for some advice

[JRuss]

Some action items I'm going to try to hold myself to:

1. No more relationship talks for the foreseeable future. Not working and, in fact, they're a huge accelerant for the dumpster fire that the marriage at the moment.

2. No more initiating texts or phone calls unless it's a legitimate child-related matter.

3. I really need to work on not following her around at home. I definitely do this.

4. Relatedly, try to get the pulse-checking, monitoring, etc. lowered and, hopefully, removed from my set of behaviors.

5. Keep the weight off, stay lean. 175# on the scale today. I'm 5"11" tall, so would still like to lose a few more, but pretty good progress -- I was butting up against 200# this winter and spring.

6. Keep all of my physical training appointments and see what that entails. Liking my body can't hurt at all, I wouldn't think.

7. I should have put this at the top, but get back to parenting as the primary focus of my life! It's been really hard to be present for them with all of these thoughts pinging around in my head.

8. Start taking guitar lessons again. I've played for years but largely dropped it as my situation has devolved.

9. After my surgery, I'll never be a runner again, unfortunately (because it's such a low maintenance way of getting fit), but I want to get my bike tuned up and start riding. We have some of the best mountain biking anywhere.

10. I don't have a lot of great friends here locally, but try to get a few to start doing things on a semi-regular basis. The worst they can say is no.

Thoughts? Any others leap out from my babblings above as things I'd do well to try?