A door opening...

[Sotto]

Hi all, thanks for your thoughts on closure. I think it is absolutely the case that I have to do this for myself. I know from previous convos with XH, he just says things that I find ridiculous and that wouldn't help me at all. Perhaps this is it and there will just be no contact at all again. I can live with that for sure. I guess the thing I don't like is to have an unhealed rift in a relationship that was previously so important to me. But I don't see any options for healing together, so I'm in it alone for that.

Thanks for your good wishes about my friend. I will check in with her tomorrow and see how she's doing. I'm going to ask if she needs any practical help around the time of her op too. I'm not sure if XH is aware of her diagnosis, but last I heard he hadn't been keeping in touch with her at all. I can recall us talking about him and her just saying something like - he's not the man I thought he was. I think she feels pretty let down by him.

As for me, I've been busy with some nice social plans. Dinner & cabaret plus afternoon tea at the weekend and salsa last night. Tomorrow is yoga followed by champagne and nibbles. I feel I have a number of nice groups of people now - salsa group, divorce, ladies social group and so on - it's nice and regular invites seem to flow in.

I've provisionally booked removals for a couple of weeks time, but I suspect the dates aren't going to work out and I'll need to put them back. It would be good to move in July if possible and it sounds like the tenant in the house I'm buying will leave earlier than expected. I'm looking forward to being in and sorted. I decided to invest in removals and just have a comfortable move. It was such an ordeal getting stuff into my flat, which is on the second floor and no lift.

As for nice guy at work. I've texted him a couple of times using work phones - just to wish him well with his move and hope he's settling in. He responds - but doesn't really initiate beyond that. In person, he seems pretty interested - but I got a little wobbly about the limited text responses and I've backed off a little. He may not be that interested, or a little scared, or wary of us working together. Who knows, but I've talked myself around from the wobble. It does make me question the wisdom of getting involved with someone as the rejection is pretty tough soon after D and I wonder how well I could handle it. I think you need to be able to handle the rejection when you decide to start dating - because it may happen.

Anyway - that's about it from me. Just looking forward to the marital home being sold and all affairs settled which isn't long away now.

Thanks for reading and take care all xx