Sh!tola - Jog on with a new W (eventually) or try and make good the old MR?
Neither, work on yourself and transforming Surfer into the best person he can be. A "new W" is not even something I'm even thinking about at the moment, nor is making the old MR turn "good." The DB principles outline this to a T, and even if reconciliation is your ultimate goal, the steps to get there are the same as if you were preparing for your next MR with someone else. In reality, you are preparing for your life with or without a M in the picture. And you can't think about reconciling right now anyways, because the variable (person) on the other side of that formula is not only something you can't control, it's someone that isn't even the same person you originally fell in love with and married. My W right now, is not the same person I developed my passion for, or maybe she is, and my eyes have been opened to see the blind-spots that were hidden during the "in love" phase of our R.
