Newby here, desperate for some advice

[JRuss]

Thanks cadet. I have definitely been trying a lot of this, but in fits and starts and, as I said, always with an eye toward seeing if it is working.

And I really don't know where the line is. Should I start sleeping on the couch, or stay in the bed? I don't think she wants me there, and, truthfully, it isn't fun to sleep next to someone who moves immediately like she's been scalded if we happen to touch each other inadvertently. The GAL stuff I definitely get and have been doing (although always expectation-based previously, which I have to stop). Just not sure how any of this minute-by-minute stuff works, so I find myself second-guessing. If I stop sleeping in the same room, it seems like I'm accepting things and giving her what she wants. Do I touch her gently as we pass each other, as we used to do all the time, or do I expressly avoid? Ugh. So hard. All of it.