I believe the three areas that are found in waywards are resentment (refusing to forgive and/or letting go of the past; unmet expectations; unfulfilled emotional needs; etc.), disrespect (shown in the tone of voice and volume; put-downs; eye-rolling and other facial & body language; making fun of the S in front of others; not showing respect for the S in front of the children and/or others; lying; deceiving; and many other ways) and rebellion (any act that represents an uprising; disobedience; going in the opposite direction of the standards, norms, and values of the M; directly going against the wishes of their spouse.
Goodness Gracious, this is just astonishing when I see it put into text. Whether an EA/PA or No A at all, I see how Wayward is not necessarily meaning there is an A, but just the mentality in general, however, commonly leads to an A of some sort. My post on my thread this morning talked about lingering WAW and how it develops into a WW, now I see, it's not a guided process, Wayward is Wayward...
Originally Posted By: Surfer
I meant to clarify. Whilst there was an EA (providing a payoff) does rebellion Now provide the payoff? Is that sufficient? Is the payoff a 'buzz'? How does the payoff make the WW feel?
Thank you.
I'm not an expert, but I've learned a lot in recent times. I'm not sure about Wayward behavior in general, but rebellion probably does fit the bill. You have to think of it like an addiction. Does a heroin addict really "enjoy" what they are doing? meh, some might, most probably don't, but it provides the chemical release in their brain that they need. They get the "fix" they need, and then mostly regret what they are doing.
I would think rebellion is probably more of a temporary fix for something WW is probably either holding back from, or just hinting that there is something grander going on that she may be pumping up for. Have you ever done research on what "limerance" is? Do a quick search and, while limerance is focused on the "madly in love" addiction, it does provide insight on how being rebellious can release the chemicals to make a depressed/confused person feel like they are doing a good thing.
