What is your overall plan? I'm sure it is to reconcile, but what is your plan in getting there? Have you broken it down in smaller steps? If you have a plan, you follow the plan, not just see what hits next.
Like......how to interact with her, and how to address these things she wants you to do? If you don't have a real plan that directs you, then every little thing she tells you is going to be a panic crisis for you.
Well my plan was work towards NC or going dark, then she asked me for MC which made me think she wants to give it a shot. So i pulled back on NC.
Now i know she doesnt really want to give it a shot. Im planless.
Right now i have to decide which way im going to go tomorrow. a) suck it up and do the family thing b) tell her i cant do it. She can tell her mum and rest of her family members why i am not there.
First one sounds like me. I'd endure stoically. The latter feels weak but hey next year we might not be together anyway so what difference will it make.
Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs 23Mar16-BD 9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss. 27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM. 14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation. 24May17-Divorced.
