Rsg, dang! What a day is right, I think you are doing really well for someone in your position. I agree with you that mental and physical health take priority as far as fixing MR problems. They are justas important as emotional and spiritual health when it comes to being someone that your S needs as a mmother figure in his life. Keep showing your support, I'm sure it's real and meaningful when it comes to this person you still love so deeply, for more reasons than just being your dream wife of the future.
