As you said so well. Knowing the principles and applying them can be different things sometimes. Somethings are easy for me to do for me. Also, some things are easy to not worry about her reaction, etc.
I love your idea of a list. So far my list has been about getting things, doing things, etc. As you know, that list is practically exhausted. I feel great from the success I've achieved so far. I guess now I'm at the "final" step is "crossing her off my list".
M:50 W:53 MR:20 D:21 S:17 S:11 BD-Sept 2015 Suspected PA Sept 2015-Confronted W & OM Dec 2015 Actually EA In house Sep:Jan/16-May 2016 W moved out:May 22 2016 OM-Intro Oct/17-On scene July/Aug 2017