Long-weekend is almost over, and W is probably about back to the house, or her parents, not sure. She said she'd be coming home to our house at some point tonight, but I'm not there so dunno. W is still in shock and didn't want to be around the dogs because of what happened. Her and her mom went up to visit family a few hours away for their annual 4th Party. I didn't mind staying home, allowing my W to escape the horrible nature and environment of what happened with the family cat. I still feel horrible about it all. I bought her mom a card and small book that I'm going to take over and just drop off to her sometime tomorrow.
I stayed home most the weekend, my bro cancelled is plans on Sat and came by to hang out for a bit, because he's frickin awesome and continues to be throughout this change in my life. The weekend consisted mostly of thunderstorms, red wine, some movies, reading/studying, and cleaning the house up a bit, mostly all taking place in my pajamas... I did walk down 4-5 houses one night and hung out for a 4th party with some neighbors, luckily they were all heavily intoxicated, as I wasn't feeling all that social and might've come off a little strange if not. it was fun, and met some neighbors that I'd never spoke to before, so that was nice. I'm trying to be a more friendly neighbor nowadays, and I'm actually liking the results.
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On another interesting note, the money situation is still out of control. My W calls me aggressively saying I need to pay the majority of the bills (BTW, I had already planned on this due to income differences), but specifically now, since she's in the middle of summer break with her job, she is only making about $400 a month with her side job. I told her I don't mind carrying the load on any existing bills, and any joint bills, but she'd be responsible for bills solely related to her. And I also said that if she continues to spend money so wastefully then I would not feel comfortable paying all the bills/expenses that I agreed to. (this conversation was on Friday). She had spent about $500 on bars, restaurants, clothing and jewelry. She got very defensive and then calmed down and said she's trying to be more responsible with her spending habits, as she knows this is going to be hard for us financially until she starts her normal job back up. I told her that I'm not going out to eat, drinking out, etc, because I'm aware things are going to be tight with me paying most the bills, and her not making much at all... There was a semi-agreement, so I deposited a $400 check in the account to pay for the majority of a $550 car repair bill on her car.
Low and Behold... what do you think happens while W and mom are on the way home from family member's. I checked the joint account, and sure enough, SOMEONE found an outlet mall on the way home, and dumped about $500 on "whatever". Doesn't really matter, but I know it's necessary, and I just can't help but laugh at how she can knowingly choose to make her life more difficult on herself right now. Anyway... I'm not mad, I really just am inching closer and closer to apathetic about the whole thing and it's getting kind of oddly repetitive.
I meet with my lawyer tomorrow to go over a list of 7 things I sent her I need greater clarification on. and I sent over an "addon" question on what I can do about this financial situation. --- So, to close up, things are going good with me. I'm still moving forward and very happy with the changes I've been making. I'm now trying to "slow down" a bit, and by that, I'm deciding which of my GAL and 180s I like/appreciate the most and I'm going to try to focus down on a few while keeping the others around for fillers. I also scheduled some professional training where I'll be traveling to Las Vegas for a training conference in my field... yep, Las Vegas was just a coincidence. I promise I didn't purposely go looking for conferences in LV.. HAHAHAHA riiiiight!
Hope you all are enjoying a great Independence Day Weekend!
