I am not caught up on your sitch yet, but I think Sara gives good advice.

I try not to take any one day too seriously, but focus more on patterns and trends.

Me: 44
H: 44
Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10
Together/Married: 22 years
H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16
H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16