3 Months of misery

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Well, all good points Rose888.
I will look at the list for sure and try to see it from her perspective. Her list is long, considering all of her extra curricular activities, she is on two boards, watches a mother in need's kiddo two nights a week and cares for her brain damaged father. On top of that the household chores. I may be resentful for the time away from home volunteer work.
We have never had to pay a contractor to do anything, I do all the maintenence on the house, cars, mowers, toys etc. I also cook twice a week or more, the kitchen is always clean when I am done.
I will ask her what she thinks.

I asked if I could help her any way today and her responce:
"I amd not sure you want to help. Feel obligated maybe but want to. I dont know.
It doesn't feel like you want to do much but have a good time but have a good time doing what you like.
Which I get"

I told her that there are may things I would rather be doing. I dont feel obligated but want to help (because I do, I love my MIL) I also invited her this weekend, she declined. But I told her I didn't invite her out of obligation but because I thought she could use some peaceful time in the mountains.

She responded and said, I am just blah. don't mean to take it out on you.

She popped of on S13 before saying another word, then just left the house leaving him there. I was gone at work.
It could be that it is just normal frustrated woman stuff, which under "normal" circumstances I could adjust, but we are so broken that nothing I say or do helps the situation, so I personally would attribute it to WAW stuff. Just my 2 cents.