Out of in house S - On My Own (11)

[rich4j]

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One month and the first month I would think is the toughest so over time I hope it gets easier for you whether its for good or not

She is as pushy as my STBX :-) I would email her just to reconfirm "no" I can't watch them. otherwise it sounds like she may just end up doing what she wants and thinks you will be the nice guy and watch them anyway.....

I agree on the gym too. Cut ties whether shared and not there or not. The less u have to interact and be connected the better to figure your sitch out.

With kids, you will be connected forever regardless so from all the folks I know who have divorced with kids....many said it took 2-3 years before they had a normal civil interactions with their X's for the kids sake ONe of my friends girlfriends is divorced and its 3 years later and she still hates the site of him (he cheated and left her)

Its been a year for you and i am sure a long year (my year anniversary of ILYB...is August). Take the time away from each other and get to know yourself better , join some Meetups, do some different things you never have done and try to clear the mind

Easier said than done I know but that is what i am trying to build up towards myself. I am at the beach with some family/friends and D7 and GAL'ing but still after talking to them about my sitch, they understand how lonely and challenging this is ...for anyone. Its a huge life change and it takes time

In time you will know what direction you want to head either full steam or slowly. U will know if you need to file for D or not. Have a good fourth!