My wife walked out 3

[Coconut]

I really need to calm down about everything. Her emotions are all over the place, and I'm too affected by it. I'm speculating too much.

Based on what you said I don't think you need Sandi2's advice, you know what you need to do.

You've said you don't like where she's at, she told you she needs to get back who she used to be, assuming you liked who she was so that needs to happen, it will take time. Take a step back from the day to day changes, how are you doing today compared to two weeks ago? Stay focused on you, I know it's hard but drop your expectations and trying to figure out where she is. You've been doing great, stay on that path.