My little slice of Life 2

[Tofbrks]

Set your relationship priorities. What is your main goal? Does this new information change your main goal? If so, then what is the new goal?

What do you want to accomplish by exposing this evidence to your in-laws? Most LBH'S think their in-laws will influence the WW to end her affair. What if she ends the A, but still refuses to work on the M? What if exposure doesn't "work", or she finds a new OM? What are your plans after exposure?

It seems more mistakes are made when a desperate spouse is grasping at straws, trying this & that......but has no plan. You need to know what you want to accomplish by doing any type of action.

Whatever you decide, I think it's high time she (and your children) sees your b@lls firmly attached.......which, IMO, means you would start taking charge, instead of hoping someone else can do something effectively, while you sit and wait. Your D14 certainly needs a stable parent in charge at this time in her life.

Is this latest information a deal breaker for you?

Sandi2 yes this info is a deal breaker for me . The disclosure is for me , to show people around my wife the true "her". For all those around me that thought I was insane for ever being so suspicious. Right now I'm still gathering , cause in past I've been too quick to act s this time I'm waiting Learning and evaluating. I still wish to have more to bolster my case for when it gets nasty.

Not really looking for inlaws to pressure her , just want them to know that the custom made story she's fed them is not reality. Same goes for several other friends that get differing stories suited to keep her reputation squeaky.

Is it selfish of me to want carnage? I know it would be difficult to contain with just her and that's what I'm debating.

Don't want her back cause I don't know who this woman is...