Your WH is not a nice person, plainly. I'm sorry that he continues to try to drag you down. You are so much better than him.
I wonder sometimes if WH has found my posts, too, as I am also a bit forthright. I just hope that he's too tied up in OW and his own self-absorption to bother looking.
I hope that you start feeling better PDQ, Miss Vanilla. Pneumonia can really take the wind out of your sails, literally.
(((((lovely Vanilla)))))
H: 44, Me: 45 Married: 20 y Together: 25 y no kids Walk away: 12/15 Asked for temp separation 12/25/15 PA confirmed 3/16 (apparently neither the first, nor the last PA he has had) H filed for D 5/16