I think what RosaLinda meant when she said "do NOT leave the house" is that you do not move out. You can move into another bedroom, i.e., not share the space w/him, but you do not move out. Why? Because it can be seen as abandonment in the eyes of the court in some states. Don't give him that advantage. The only time you move out is if he gets physical and you feel that you and your children are in physical danger from him...but also be sure to call the police and advise them of the situation as well.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
