Hi Huddy , I don't think your being defensive more you just dont realise how much your still attached and that's goes for loads of us !!

As for W looking Glum , when I had my kidney transplant I was in agony and even knowing it was going to change my life didn't help short term

I bet the kids are haivng a great time with you and we'll end on holding back some cash for their keep. That's real world detachment

Take care. Rd