Water,

I am confused, you got to hear about your divorce being final after the event and as a surprise?

I am so sorry for the difficult and confusing place you are in. I'm suddenly all over the place too, after thinking I really was detaching.

I certainly don't think you are being too restrictive, I think your H is having his cake and eating it as well - you are at his beck and call from hundreds of miles away, but he wants to be divorced from you as well?

What do you think might happen if you just went cool and dark on him and weren't always around to comfort him? Just a thought.

Livnlearn

"The unexamined life is not worth living" - Socrates