and the other thing is that I can't say "Sorry you feel that way..." because it's a flag of insincerity for him. Instead I have to say things like "I'm disappointed you feel that way..." a linguistic mind field.
We do a lot of family activities together. Is that OK? We went to a potluck and I made an effort to always find other people to chat with and never go stand next to him and let him come stand next to me. I didn't leave immediately but after awhile I would go and talk to someone else.
I'm trying to find activities in any room other than the one he's in. This is hard since he basically camps out with his computer at the kitchen table. I have to spend some time in the kitchen. Tonight as a family we went to a drive-in movie. We each had one child to cuddle with. Today was a rather superb day - but this was never the issue - having a great day, the issue is consistency and overall calm rather than so many highs and lows and such frequent changeover.
