I agree with you. Someone that understands marriage and children require work. Someone that can accept disagreement. Someone always willing to learn and try?
No one is forced to marry and have children. And for those who make that choice, you do have to give up some form of independence and individualism. Your behaviors, your time, your finances...they have to be sacrificed for the family unit. And that's a lot to sacrifice. No question.
I like what that sacrifice has the potential to bring though. And I still have hope and the belief that it's possible to share your life with someone into old age. Although probably more difficult second time around.
I think it's pretty irresponsible to make that choice and then decide midway through that "nope it's not for me" and villify and lie about someone to justify that decision. I think that was the hardest part for me... Being villified and blamed.
My husband has been telling people that I pushed him out. That he tried. Now obviously I wouldn't date someone that cheated or abandoned his family. But What if I meet someone that tells me his wife left him? How can I trust that he is different from my husband? Maybe he is in a weird self denial too!
